What is Beautiful?

Today, a bit more serious post. Beauty. 

To begin, do not expect this to be step-by-step instructions on how to meet beautiful women. This is not that kind of post. Today, we talk about the definition of beauty and the ways in which we define it. 

To start, lets look at this woman:

Yes, she's beautiful. You would bring her back to your place on a Friday night and all of your friends would probably give you high-fives for meeting her, 'catching' her, and claiming her as your own. You'd be admired and respected, right?

Maybe. But is that realistic? Is that really what you're looking for?

The last time I checked, we were looking for a woman, not a status symbol. 

Now, lets be real. What is real beauty and what is a real woman?

Gentlemen, I challenge you to broaden your horizons. The woman above is Kate Upton. She's a 20 year old swimsuit model who has been featured in magazines like Sports Illustrated and Esquire. Its obvious why a million men around the world find her beautiful. 

But now think about the women in your life. Think about the last girl you took out to dinner. Think about the women you meet in the office or that you see on the street. Think about what catches your eye and delve in beyond the superficial. These women may not be super-models, and they may not cause your friends to cheer and congratulate you upon your arrival, but they are beautiful. 

Notice the little things. 

Freckles. 

A crooked smile. 

Beautiful eyes. 

Because at the end of the day its not the obvious things that will make her beautiful to you...

It will be the details.

And honestly, who cares what your friends think?
If they are alone at home, on a Friday night, waiting for you to bring someone home for them to judge, odds are that they're all probably single anyways. 

Cheers.

--Dapper Chris

Lets Talk About It: Your T-Shirt

Inspiration can come in the most interesting ways. Today, it came in the form of this:

Gentlemen, please. 

Lets take a step back. When you roll out of bed in the morning, open up your dresser, and pull this little gem of a shirt on, you are telling the world two things:

1) I don't respect myself and
2) I certainly don't respect you.

There is no woman who (in her right mind) would find you witty or attractive wearing something so blatantly offensive. And don't fool yourself into thinking that only "hot" girls will have the confidence to approach you when you wear a shirt like this.

I'm sorry, you're wrong.

Those girls will be too busy laughing with their attractive friends about how ridiculously juvenile you look in your ugly t-shirt. Which brings me to the next matter of concern:

What about this shirt says, "I am a well dressed, confident man"? Nothing. If anything, all this shirt says to a woman is:

"I spent too much money on a tacky piece of clothing, so you should know that whatever I get you for Christmas will probably follow the same trend."

And last but not least, why, WHY do we feel that this is okay:

You should be intelligent enough to talk for yourself at this point. Relying on your clothing to do it for you is simply...well...

pathetic.

So think about what you put on your back, gentlemen. Don't act stupid, and certainly don't look it. 

Cheers.

--Dapper Chris